Welcome to 2018!
Are you busy working your way through your list of new year’s resolutions? Are you going to stick to them this time?
Reel Focus blog is usually concerned with all things film and television. However, occasionally we take a break from the lights, the camera and the action to focus on the key ingredient in entertainment: you!
Keeping in the tradition that we began a while back, I want to keep the momentum going by including a health and well-being segment that helps to make a better you so that you can get all the good that this year has to offer. Whether you are a veteran or an aspiring film professional, we can all use a small dose of self-improvement, especially this time of the year. In order to bring in the new year with a new you, this year I have invited renowned life coach Lauren Handel Zander, Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, to share tips on how to help you sort out your life for greater success and abundance this year.
Lauren, thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to share this important information with Reel Focus readers. Everyone comes to a point in life where they feel as though they are inundated with deadlines, family obligations, professional obligations and a host of other “busy-ness.” First, tell our readers how to recognize when life is becoming overwhelming and when they should seek the help of a life coach to aid them in clearing the chaos.
No problem. It’s very much my pleasure (and my job!).
In the fast paced, digital world we live in today, it’s easy for us to feel overwhelmed, anxious, inundated, stressed, excuse-filled, and guilt-ridden. [And then some.]
If you’re not fully happy, inspired, and proud of yourself, more than likely you are not living true to your highest ideals for yourself.
That’s where I and HG Life Coaches come in.
The very first assignment we give to each and every client is to dream. And not just dream in one or two areas of their life where most of us dabble, but twelve areas of their life––from their body to career to love life to areas they possibly haven’t thought about in years––like fun, adventure, and spirituality. Dreaming wakes us up to ourselves. It gets us into the right fight. It acts as our own internal GPS, allowing us to see where we really want to go. And worse (and best), it gets us to very clearly see that there is a gap between what we say we want AND what we are currently doing about it (see: excusing and blaming).
As a coach, your dreams give me (your GPS) our final destination.
That was a long way of saying it, but basically you know you need a life coach if you’re not tickled with or particularly proud of any area of your life.
Lauren, most of our audience members are film and entertainment professionals and this industry is definitely a beast in terms of climbing the ladder of success. Specifically, share with our readers how your organization can help members of the film and entertainment community get their lives on track and realize their dreams.
No matter how partial you are to believing your industry is the fill-in-the-blank-est (hardest, nit-pickiest, most sexist, etc.), truth be told, climbing any ladder in any industry is difficult. Sure, the entertainment industry has its own brand of beastly; however, watch out if you think your industry––whatever it may be––is harder than any other. After all, doesn’t that theory allow you to 1) be a bit less accountable for your own aspirations, actions, and ascent, and 2) blame your industry for it?
In my twenty plus years coaching clients––from CEOs to entrepreneurs to politicians to award-winning artists––I have yet to meet a human, no matter how huge and successful, who REALLY understood how to create and design their time so that it’s not only consistent with and true to their dreams, but allows them to get ahead. A coach comes in and helps you get smarter about your time, get your head under new management (curate your thoughts), fight for your dreams, and learn how to make and keep promises to yourself that are wholly consistent with your dreams.
People (even A-list-ers!) think change is hard. It’s not. It’s just different than what you, left to your own devices, are currently doing.
Text messages, social media, work meetings, sporting events, friends’ weddings, kids’ school plays, spouse’s needs – whew, everything and everyone is competing for our attention and time! In general, tell us more about what your organization does to help us “cut the crap” so that we can complete our obligations happily and successfully.
See the species packaging: we all (and I mean all––from CEOs to artists to your aunt) know what we should be doing daily to be more productive, happy, and proud.
But we aren’t doing it…
Ever wonder why?
See the title of my book: Maybe It’s You. Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. There is no maybe about it––you are your productivity, happiness, and pride’s biggest problem.
Here are some basic pointers for how to get more productive and, in turn, wildly proud of yourself and what you’re up to.
Instead of battling time and pretending like it is not finite, start partnering with it. Befriend it. There really is a certain amount of time each thing you want to get done takes. Most of us play a bit duh-mb to it. I have clients actually schedule every item (yes, every) on their ‘to do’ list into their calendar and stick to it. I have you wake up to what things actually take to accomplish in real time, not in your head.
Learn how to keep a promise to yourself and make sure your promise forwards your vision for your career, like working on your business plan (or scripts) for 5 hours a week or attending networking events monthly, or even, uh, having (let alone writing down) a vision for your career, etc.
Be bigger than your favorite brand of excuses. Listen. Excuses are brilliant. They work. They also, however, sabotage your own dream. Discover, once and for real, that every time you sell yourself an excuse and buy it, your relationship to yourself suffers.
Put in a self-imposed consequence should you not succeed at #2. For example, if you don’t put in 5 hours a week on your business plan, lose your weekend wine. The key is not to lose your wine (or whine!) but to keep your promise. It’s pretty impressive how most of us will fight for our vice more than our dream. But, so be it. At least, let’s use our bad for good, no?
Go public with your promise (and consequence).
Try following these 5 methods for 1 month and you’ll be astonished (and proud!) at how much you’ve accomplished already in 2018!
“Most of us will fight for our vice more than our dream.” Wow that is a powerful statement, Lauren and I can certainly relate to being my own worst enemy at times. I want to end with sharing more about your best-selling book “Maybe It’s You – Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life.” For those readers who are not quite ready to seek personalized life coaching sessions, tell us how this acquiring this book can still help them to get on the road to success starting this year.
For those of you who aren’t quite ready to work one-on-one with a life coach and/or would prefer to work at your own pace with no one in your face (hi!), I have two great options for you. First, my book, MAYBE IT’S YOU, takes you through ten coaching sessions, it gives you the actual assignments I give to my clients, plus you get to follow the stories (and assignments) of four of my clients. The other option is my digital coaching course, Inner.U., which is over fourteen hours of coaching with yours truly. There will be assignments, stories, and even prizes (!). You can push ‘stop’ on me (a rarity), do the deep work at your own pace, all the while wondering if I’m aware that not only do I cackle, care about you, and crack myself up, I still have a slight (smirk) Long Island accent.
If you’re looking for an easy way to get started, my free Current Reality Quiz is a quick, easy, and fun coaching tool. Use it to self-assess and get a better idea of which areas of your life to work on: handelgroup.com/crq